Why read So this is me Mrs T

Why should you read my blog?

People blog for all sorts of reasons. I blog because I like to empty my head. Now spring is approaching and I have emerged from hibernation I'm feeling fresher and stronger and ready to empty my thoughts.

I don't claim to be a trendy mum about town blogging about the latest this and that, just the everyday life of a mum of two in what I think they call a 'blended family' one child with special educational needs the other child a neurotypical four year who thinks he's Batman or maybe even Spider-Man, it depend what day it is.

So February 2017 sees the end of the first year of marriage to my husband Mr T, dad to H (Batman)and step-dad to O. We are mid an array of home improvements, having been in this house 4 years the time came to make those finishing touches. Currently we approach the end of week two of a shower room installation, it's been a long time coming and I for one cannot wait to see the results. Mr T has project managed from his office in London, while I have taken front line position serving coffee to the builders and trying to answer a multitude of questions I have no idea the answer to.

The house has been turned upside down and there is 'stuff' everywhere as I mutter to myself for the millionth time since the work began 'it will all be worth it' as I try to put off the inevitable mass clear up operation that befalls me this weekend when the job should be complete...

As I mentioned in my previous hibernation post I am once again on the weight loss/self improvement treadmill. Since H was born I've been up and down like a yoyo on the scales this time I am desperately trying to follow the lifestyle change of eating properly, ie actually having breakfast and cutting out the junk, portion control etc. I have seen results so far in around half a stone weightloss since Christmas but if I am brutally honest to be healthy I need to see a at least another 21 pounds off.

I am also rapidly aware that if I were to have another GULP baby now I am 35 I would be considered a 'geriatric mother' by the medical people. Not that Mr T and I are talking of another baby but why when you hit 35 can you be considered geriatric? My dear Grandmother passed away this month and the ripe old age of 87, now that is elderly. So since my last birthday I have become brutally aware that I am now edging that step closer to 40 which to me seems 'old.

When I lose weight and take care of my appearance I do feel so much better both mentally and physically. My skin hasn't been great, I put that down to the cold weather drying it out and I'm on the hunt for a new improved beauty regime. My boys are older and despite the madness of the school run in the mornings I do actually have time to spend on myself. So I am going to invest in my skin. My Grandmother had beautiful skin, freckly like me but also very porcelain looking.

Goals for 2017 are to feel better about my appearance, blog as and when family life allows and read more. What are your goals? Did you make any new years resolutions in January?

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Emerging from hibernation

I'm back. Well I never really went anywhere except for into hibernation over the last 7 months or so. Like most creatures who hibernate, I definitely fattened myself up for the Autumn/Winter. I tried to blame several courses of steroid treatment for my chest but that cannot take full responsibility. Fact is I stuffed myself silly and have nobody to blame but myself.

I'm most definitely a comfort eater, now I've lost a few pounds I can say I think I have a handle on my food intake. I tried various methods but the only thing that works for me is watching my calorie intake. It was a bit laborious at first continually checking labels or weighing out food but now I'm in the swing its second nature. A bit like checking my social media...

So I'm determined to, as regularly as family life will allow, update my blog. Allow those of you who read this, a glimpse into the not-so glam life of a 30 something mum on the run. On the run literally some of the time. Sometimes my to do list is so long I have no idea where to start but I am always, always on time for nursery or school pickup.

With the start of a new year continues my promise to myself to take care of me and so while I will try not to religiously bore you all with diet and weight updates, I will let you know of any milestones, be they emotional or physical.

So that's my comeback post, hardly earth shattering but I just wanted to pop by and wave 'hello'.

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Me my selfies and I

A very rare opportunity presented itself this week. The opportunity to spend time actually reading the contents of a magazine. Not just one magazine but several. This week we spent 4 nights under house arrest on the paediatric ward at our local hospital. My youngest H, had a horrendous bout of tonsillitis leaving him unable to eat or drink so we were admitted for IV fluids and antibiotics and a lot of sitting about. Hence my stash of magazines to while away some of the time while he recovered.

At the back of Grazia magazine, I spotted a fab a great article called 'me my selfie and I' where a celeb is asked a selection of questions with a selfie thrown in. So I decided to use this idea for a post called 'me my selfies and I'.

I'm in my third month of blogging now - the addiction has well and truly taken hold. So I thought I'd use this opportunity to share a little bit more about myself Mrs T.

So here are the questions

Q1. Who is your best friend?
Of course my new husband Mr T. We've been together almost 6 years and married for 3 months. We've had a real rollercoaster of a time but I can't imagine sharing my life with anyone else. He knows me through and through.

Q2. What's your biggest regret?
Not taking more time over choosing the design for my first tattoo. I don't regret the tattoo, in fact I love it I just should have taken longer on the design. People have asked me in the past if its a snail, errr no it's a 'swirly flower' durrrrr.
Q3. What's your biggest extravagance?
Having my eyebrows regularly waxed and tinted. Eyebrows frame the face. Fact.

Q4. When were you last embarrassed?
Mr T and I were in a restaurant at the O2 before seeing a show. I had a new top on, done myself up to the nines only for a waiter to pour an entire drink all over me. EVERYONE was looking. I nearly died. We got a free meal out of it thanks to Mr T.

Q5. When did you last lose your temper?
I try not to in front of the kids but when I do lose it I tend to lose it internally and take it out on myself. Most recently when a very important email was claimed not to be received when I had proof it had.  Oh and when people say really really stupid things. Annoying.

Q6. What would you delete from the internet?
Spam email. Drives me mad and fills up my inbox. Oh and any drunk photos of me on Facebook..

Q7. Who owes you an apology?
The birds currently nesting in our roof. The have sh*t all over my washing far too many times.

Q8. Who or what would go in your Room 101?
Fish. Any fish or seafood dish is just wrong. Smells hideous, makes you ill and I cannot stand it. Don't get me started on sushi.

Q9. Can you tell us a secret?
It's not massively exciting but I am OCD diagnosed. It's ok I'm dealing with it.

Q10. Who do you miss the most?
My dad. He passed away when I was 19 and I regret not making the most of the short time we had together when we knew he was terminal.

Q11. What is your biggest life lesson?
I came across a recent quote which has really struck a chord with me "the more you love yourself the less nonsense you'll tolerate".

I hope you enjoyed this post. If you did perhaps answer these questions yourself and share them with me.

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Monday Motivation numero trois

This quote caught my eye and I think it's a very apt post for me throughout my life. I won't bore all and sundry with the details now but I think remembering to love yourself is really important.

Like many I have had a great deal of nonsense (and that is putting it mildly) thrown in my direction but I've found I do have the strength to keep calm and keep going.

Life it what you make it and learning to love yourself is a continual journey.

Wishing you all a great week x

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Garden activities for preschoolers

The sun is finally out hooray! If like me you have a pre-schooler and want to get them outdoors enjoying the sun without spending a fortune on 'garden toys' with a few items you will either have around the house or in the shed or garage you can have a lot of fun together.

"Chalking it up"
If you have a patio and some chalk then this is a great idea for children from early mark makers to school aged children who are able to write. Using chunky chalk let your children create and design on the patio, hop scotch, an alphabet trail, a number line even help them to chalk out a road and practice road safety skills if you have the space! Best thing about this activity is it all rubs off or make it into a game to clean it off using a watering can. Preschoolers LOVE to get wet! Older children may like to lie down and chalk their outline or chalk parents shadows - great for self awareness.

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"Sensing it" 
Fill a tough tray or paddling pool, even an old washing up bowl for babies or toddlers with one of the following for them to explore; gloop (cornflour), jelly, shredded paper, coloured sand and glitter or shaving foam and let them get mucky! They can explore new textures using their hands and fingers. A favourite of my pre-schooler is hiding his plastic dinosaurs in a tub of soil. Yes it's all hideously messy but they are outside!

"Paint a picture"
Using buckets and paintbrushes let your children paint the pathway, patio or fences with water and see it magically dry in the sun! No mess just water which children love. Use a variety of sizes of brush, whatever you may have in your art box or in your decorating supplies. Another type of brush to try is a toothbrush ideal for little hands.

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"Plastic fantastic"
Pound stores now have in a great selection of plastic garden toys, Frisbees and balls all shapes and sizes - look out neighbours windows - windmills, skittles, ribbons, small toy fish/frogs, gardening or sandpit tools, bubbles and blowers. You don't have to spend much to top up your outdoor kit.
Our frogs currently live in the bathroom

What outdoor activities do you enjoy with your children? Love to hear your ideas.

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